How many times, over the course of your life, have you heard the period between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day referred to as “The Season of Giving?” We’ve all participated in this metaphorical season in some capacity or another – usually by giving gifts to friends and loved ones. And as anyone knows, the best part about this ritual is seeing someone light up when a gift that you’ve given them really strikes a chord. It’s actually better than getting gifts (okay…most of the time!). Well, recently, I came across something that inspired me to take the idea of giving to another level and I decided that this would be the perfect time to do so, essentially making “The Season of Giving” earn its name. I want to introduce you to Capes Coaching’s 29-Day Giving Challenge.
The inspiration came from this NY Times article about Cami Walker, creator of the 29-Day Giving Challenge. I want to encourage you to read the article in order to get a little context for how Ms. Walker came to create this challenge. In a nutshell, during a particularly difficult time in her life, Ms. Walker took the advice of her spiritual teacher to give something away each day for 29 days. During that time, she journaled daily about her experience, and by the end of the 29 days she noticed a radical shift in her emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual energy – a profound change that had an indescribable affect on her entire life. She’s been sharing her story ever since, inspiring people around the world to take up the torch and embrace their spirit of generosity. I’m up to the challenge, and I want YOU to join me.
First, we’re going to exercise our giving muscles by rewarding everyone who participates in – and finishes – the challenge with a copy of the Artists In Action Inner Balance package (valued at $77). And of those who complete the challenge, one lucky person will receive a 6-Session Private Coaching package (valued at $900), where they will get six 45-minute career coaching sessions with me via telephone. Do I have your attention now?
Here are the details of the challenge:
- The Capes Coaching 29-Day Giving Challenge begins on Friday, November 25th, and ends on Friday, December 23rd.
- Register here to participate. (You MUST register to be eligible for the giveaway)
- Each participant gives one thing away each day for the entire 29 days. These “gifts” can take any form and can be as large or small as you like. The idea is to get creative. Physical gifts and money are obvious (and they certainly count here), but think about the less obvious ways to give: a phone call to a friend in need of support, helping someone carry their groceries, an email of encouragement, dog-walking, making dinner, texting a compliment, just listening to someone who needs it, crafting something, offering your seat on the subway/bus – there is no limit to what you can gift. If you can think it, you can do it.
- Log all of your gifts. Whether you write complete journal entries or just jot down what the gift was and who it was to, keep a log of them because this will be your proof of completing the challenge.
- If you miss a day or you begin the challenge late: don’t sweat it. We’d like you to make up for the missed days by giving multiple gifts on the remaining days of the challenge. This is where we differ from Ms. Walker’s original “rules,” and we do so because of the giveaway. But, staying in the spirit of things, we don’t want you to overthink this or to stress out about it – this whole challenge is about the spirit of giving, not the prize at the end of the road. Again, even the tiniest gestures count. Think back on your day to see if you actually gave something that you might not have been aware of in the moment.
- To remain eligible for the giveaway, you must return to this page at least once during the challenge to share with us (in the comments below) one of your gifts. We’d love for you to come back as often as you like – the more examples we get, the better. Just make sure you do it at least one time.
- Once the challenge ends on December 23rd, email a list of all 29 of your gifts to events@capesco.com, along with a short paragraph detailing how you feel you would benefit from a complimentary coaching package. We know that this is a VERY busy time for many of you, so we’re giving you an extra week to email us, however, we MUST receive your email no later than January 1st, 2012.
- Sometime during the first week of January, all eligible participants will receive a downloadable copy of the Artists In Action Inner Balance package, and one person will be chosen (based on their emailed paragraph) as the recipient of the complimentary 6-session private coaching package.
Let’s do a Cliff’s Notes version, just for the sake of simplicity:
- Challenge runs from 11/25/2011 – 12/23/2011.
- Register here.
- Give one thing away each day for 29 days.
- Log your gifts.
- If you miss a day, or come to the challenge late, make up those missed gifts during the remainder of the challenge.
- Stop by this page at least once and comment on one of your gifts.
- Email a list of your 29 gifts and a paragraph about how you feel you would benefit from a coaching package to events@capesco.com no later than 01/01/2012.
- Get a free copy of the Artists In Action Inner Balance package (and maybe a 6-session coaching session!) during the first week of January.
I don’t know about you, but just thinking about this challenge makes me excited! And, of course, I’m going to be blogging about my experience along the way. I’d love to hear from anyone who wants to share their experience as well, so please don’t be shy – use the comments section below! And, if you know of anyone who you think would be interested in taking part in the challenge, pass along the info – the more people we can get involved in this, the bigger the difference we can make!
Before I head off, I want to wish everyone here a Happy Thanksgiving! Enjoy the holiday, remember what you’re thankful for, and get ready to give!
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For additional guidelines, visit the official 29-Day Giving Challenge website.

LOVE!!!!
This beautiful! Thanks for sharing! I will most definitely be taking part.
Yay!!
I was looking for a way to make a difference! Thanks for the simple reminder – and for challenging us to keep enlarging our territory
Here’s to giving! xo
You’re welcome, Amy! Let’s get ready to give
What a wonderful idea Betsy! Thank you for sharing with us. Happy and healthy Thanksgiving!
Yay! Thinking about this challenge makes me really excited too – already excited by the ideas – although should I be concerned that most of my ideas seem involve holiday baking – haha!
Love this idea… definitely participating! Just the other day, I gave up my seat on the subway to a tourist and offered to take an elderly lady’s tray to the garbage for her even though I was having a really crummy day, professionally. It honestly made my day a lot better and doing little, nice things for people makes everyone happy
Erin — Bake away! Who doesn’t love getting homemade baked goods??
Carly — I agree. Those little gestures can have a big impact!
Love this
And had such a great time at your workshop with Karen last week!
Thanks, Danielle! Great to meet you last week at the seminar and hope you are enjoying the challenge so far.
Ordering in pizza for my floor at work today (a few of us are working at my office today)… pizza makes everything better!
Great idea, Jake!
I am in! Started the day already with an act of giving, but it is not the official one for the day. I am finding already that generosity is contagious! Thanks for co-creating this space for giving, Betsy. Happy Giving to all today Day One!
Happy Thanksgiving Betsy. Thanks for passing this along. It is a great time of the year for all of us to take a moment to slow down the hectic holiday season and appreciate the little things we can do for each other on a daily basis. I am 21 weeks pregnant, appreciating each day that all is well, and am happy to be able join the 29-day giving challenge.
First, wanted to say thank you to you for recommending Tom Burke as a voice teacher. I had my first lesson last week and he was wonderful, his space so beautiful and calming and it was great to get to sing just because I wanted to.
Secondly, my first act of giving today was to my friend Danielle who has just gone through a horrible unexpected medical crises. Days after returning from her honeymoon, her husband bent down to nuzzle their newly acquired rescue dog, and the dog bit a piece of his nose off. An almost unbelievably, horrible story, he spent 5 days in the hospital undergoing many surgeries. To add insult to injury they were both without health insurance. Danielle has set up a tumbler account to help raise money to pay for their medical bills, the whole story explained in greater detail @ http://justinmedicalfund.tumblr.com/. Am hoping by posting this link, others might be willing to help and learn from the many bigger issues their story brings to the surface.
Cheers to giving, just because….
Much light & love!
Jenny
Glad you’re loving Tom Burke, Jenny — he’s a favorite of ours!
That’s an awful story, regarding your friend’s husband! Hopefully he’s getting the attention he needs and people will swing over to the link you posted. We’ll keep them in our thoughts.
Fed my neighbor’s cat and cleaned their litter box.
Gave away a loaf of banana bread to a homeless guy – loving the encouragement to give – it feels great! Thanks, Betsy!
I had a relaxing start to my season of giving.
Friday: I took a friend to lunch and to the Museum of Jurassic Technology, which is amazing and weird. I called a friend, whose Mom recently passed away- just to check in. I started making her a care package.
Saturday: I gave a meal to a homeless person. I organized a hike for a friend’s birthday. Packed lunch for a friend and managed to get her to an art exhibit she was eager to see- because she was visiting LA.
okay, I’m starting a couple of days late, however, I did do a few things beginning on the 25th:
Friday: I called a friend whose mother is in hospice care and made sure he knew that I was thinking of him and his family and that he had all my love and support and that I was available to talk if he needed a friend.
Saturday: I gave away a bunch of new magazines to a house in which the theater’s technical director and a few stage managers are living while they are away from home.
Sunday: I’m giving away a great ticket to Nutcracker to a stranger in a coffee bar – first row, mezzanine
I’m really loving this 29 day Giving Challenge! Today I cleaned out my closet and dressers of all the clothes that either don’t fit me anymore or I don’t really wear anymore and packed them all up to give to the Salvation Army.
came home to find a dirty kitchen left by my roommate; while he was sleeping I cleaned the whole mess for him. He was surprised and grateful
Oh that’s a big one. Not only is it a nice thing to do, but I know it also takes overcoming the aggravation at finding the mess in the first place. To do something kind for those who are undeserving of your kindness (without sounding to over the top?) is one of the hardest gifts to give.
The first day of this challenge happened to coincide with the day someone was scheduled to come buy my old laptop from me. I had placed the computer on Craigslist for $50. It was about 6 years old or so and I already have two other computers. I didn’t need this one, but you can always use $50. But this seemed like a good place to start. The guy showed up at my building and I showed him the computer. Satisfied, he reached in his pocket and produced the cash. I told him not to worry about it. “What?” he said. “Don’t worry about it. Have a good holiday.” The look of surprise and gratitude was worth more than the money. “You have my number,” he followed, “if you ever need any favors, please don’t hesitate.” I don’t imagine I’ll take him up on that, but it’s good to see the immediate contagious impact of generosity.
Love this, Ryan!
I registered late cause I was off the grid at my dad’s farm, ha ha, but I made him cookies Friday. This is really great, I’m excited for this!
These are all so great! Reading your comments is the best possible start to my day — a giant jolt of inspiration first thing in the morning! Keep it up — I can’t wait to hear more. And I’ll be sharing some of my experiences soon!
Betsy,
Thanks for doing this!You made us all take a step back and found our humanity. My brother lost his wife in June and I try to spend time with him and if i cant be there I just call him and I know he appreciates that. These are little things to do but every little bit helps. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!God Bless you….
I’m glad that I checked into these comments this morning. I have begun my day by donating to Jenny Maguire’s friends who have no medical insurance. Thank you for sharing that story and allowing me to have an opportunity to give before I’ve even hopped in the shower.
bless you all! I can’t wait to do more today…
Thanks Antoinette!!! That is really kind of you. I know she will be incredibly grateful, especially coming from a total stranger. Love the stories of simple giving and passing it on, tis the season.
Much light & respect,
Jenny
On Saturday I gave away 7 winter coats at the hot lunch program at St Patricks in Newark NJ. It was a really warm day but the recipients of the coats were so happy to start the winter knowing they had a coat of their own for the frigid days and nights ahead of us
I just realized that thinking about giving makes moments of taking much more obvious.
Totally, Lauren. I’ve noticed that too!
Loving this challenge! Last night, I picked up some groceries and had an amazing salad and fresh bread waiting for my husband when he returned home from work. It was a nice change from our frozen burrito routine — we’ve been so busy lately, we never cook! (Okay, I understand that tossing a salad isn’t necessarily “cooking,” but hey, it had walnuts.)
Hoping to mix these small things with at least one big community service project this month.
Sunday: I went through my neighborhood trying to help a friend find an apartment – He has two little kids and his wife is in Kansas. I mapped out the neighborhood and made a few calls for him.
Monday: I sent a few friends some breakdowns for jobs I thought they could book in a snap. I sent a new friend some vegan recipes because he is just getting started. I sent a thank you note to one of my mentors here in LA, Dallas Travers, just to let her know that I learned so much from her. I made a list of awesome things to do in NYC for a stranger, who will be visiting for the first time. I took a friend out for his birthday and made him a gift. I am on a roll!!
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Just donated to the US Figure Skating Association – they provide scholarships and financial support to skaters around the country. I get so much joy from watching figure skating on TV and I have thought about doing this for years – thanks to this challenge – I finally did!
just returned from my thanksgiving family festivities. love reading these diverse offerings. thank you all for being so inspirational!!
gogogo!!!
here’s my giving round-up so far:
11/25 – offered to help my mother clean her closet (super-long overdue and stressful feat for her) – we filled a garbage-bag full of clothes and shoes to give away and cleaned out three boxes of papers etc…
11/26 – mike and i treated the family to dinner/ice cream post muppet-viewing. AND i’ve told everyone to GO SEE THE MUPPETS. gosh they’re joyful!!!
11/27 – a sad one. went to a funeral of a dear friend of my parents that i’ve known my whole life. shared a lot of hugs and loving words with his wife and children. also was a support to my parents.
11/28 – suggested to my mother that she give a very cute, but too-small pair of red flats to my sister-in-law who wears her size…they were both very happy for the exchange. does brokering count?
11/29 – typed up and shared notes from a teacher-training session i participated in several weeks ago. the brainstorming we did was all documented on big posters, so i offered to take them home, type and share with the group. of course i just now got around to it…
yesterday was a quiet day, but I managed to open a lot of doors, let tons of cars in ahead of me on the road, and I smiled a lot at people who looked as if they were having a tough day. I realized these small gestures make other people really happy and in turn makes me feel good. Everyone really appreciates these small things. (I know that a couple of weeks ago, when two people let me in ahead of them in a long coffee line for no apparent reason other than they wanted to, I felt like I was floating on a cloud – powerful stuff)
Of all the things I did over the last few days, the one that made me smile most was for my best friend. She is always there when I need her. It broke my heart, on Monday, to find out that she was bedridden with a virus and I couldn’t get there to give any TLC. I then decided that delivery.com could assist me in providing a pleasant surprise! She was happy, well fed, and is recovering quickly
Love how the internet can help us give in those moments – thanks for sharing Christine!
this has been so great to focus on! my family has been going through a lot the past month with sickness, death, cancer diagnosis (it all came at once and around the holidays!). i’m so grateful i’m doing this. it’s been really helping people around me (as well as myself) stay more positive and remember the things that are important. some of the gifts i’ve given: a donation to the alzheimers association (www.alz.org) in memory of rita whiteside, my sister-in-law’s mom who passed away over the weekend, i went to rita’s funeral in RI yesterday and brought my mom and dad each a gift to cheer them up, i left a case of wine in the lobby of my building with a “happy holidays” note for my neighbors, i gave my husband a journal to log his journey on this challenge as well, wrote a note to my cousin who i think about EVERY DAY and had no idea if she knew that or not… happy giving!
Heather, Antoinette, Franny, Erin, Amy & Alison – loved reading each of your posts! Thanks for sharing your experience so far and continue enjoying the challenge
It is awesome to read the many different ways that people are finding to give of themselves! I am finding new ideas and ways to think of what can be given away.
Here are some of mine so far: Day One – gave my husband 3 kisses leaving bed so he’d feel loved even though we were in a fight the night form before and then left an apology note asking him to a movie; gave my attention and time to an older lady who wanted to chat in the neighborhood; gave husband the gift of my letting go of being right so we could re-connect
Day Two – signed a petition and letter to send to India’s Home Secretary to urge change and help against the violence currently occurring against women who have female babies and female babies being killed or neglected: “Don’t Let Young Girls In India Fall Through the Cracks” Take Action! campaign, sponsored by: The Child Health Site: http://www.thechildhealthsite.com/clickToGive/campaign.faces?siteId=5&campaign=IndianGirls
; I called 911 and served as witness giving my account to the police after seeing a man and woman in a physical altercation outside of my building: honestly, I might not have been as inclined if I wasn’t in the frame of mind to give what I can
Day Three – got an extra ticket to a special inspirational workout and invited a woman very much working to improve her connection to her body/spirit to join me
Day Four – held the door to my building for a woman laden with boxes even though I was running late; gave a guy at my subway stop a few dollars – see him often, as a rule don’t give people in the street money, but he is always polite and not pushy; already this challenge has me thinking differently as I move through the day; I’m sort of tuned and looking for open doors to give through
Day Five – treating husband to BOOK OF MORMON tickets tonight; reached out to two friends having a hard time via text and phone to let them know I was thinking of them
Day Six – a fellow actor called needing dialect help: I am copying a cd and the booklet I have to give to her; I also invited her to be my guest tomorrow night at a SAG event: we are fellow actresses and both need some inspiration right now. I think a Conversation with Viola Davis is going to be great for that!!; sent co-worker with a sick cat my well-wishes and the offer of help.
Can’t wait to keep reading these stories-
Thank you all!
I donated some money to the Garth Fagan Dance Company. Their performance the other night was jaw-dropping and inspirational and I had to give something more to them since they filled my heart so much.
I also spoke to my younger brother over the phone, who recently quit his job to start a new job. He was experiencing tremendous stress in his chest and stomach and he allowed me to talk him through a meditation and breathing exercise that actually helped the tension loosen up in his chest. I also told him that I loved him. It’s a new way of communicating between the two of us. This 29 days of giving challenge is giving me courage to take more risks in good ways.
Tuesday: I helped draft an intro letter for a friend’s new business. I gave a copy of “Eat to Live” to a friend, who was dreaming about starting the program. I invited a friend to co-teach a yoga class with me to introduce his hypnotherapy business to a new group of amazing women. I mailed a letter to a friend that has been feeling down and included a silly photo and a poem about how awesome she was. I helped a young woman in my neighborhood, who has asked me to mentor her – with the beginnings of her college application process including going to her high school and meeting with her guidance counselor, which was wild!
Wednesday the 30th! : I volunteered at my local yoga studio and helped them prepare their holiday mailing. I sent two thank you notes and had a great long-overdue talk with my Dad, who has been feeling pretty down. I bought tickets for a small theater production for 5 friends, who ordinarily wouldn’t go to see a show in LA. I helped my neighbor even though I didn’t have a moment to spare with moving a few things. I talked with a friend, who has been feeling depressed and tried to help her brain-storm about starting a business.
I love finding little ways to show people I love them- even when they are strangers.
I gave lots of compliments today, which was really fun! The look on people’s faces has been really rewarding! and I feel way more calm.
(Oddly, I have 7 auditions this week and just found out I booked a print job– I think it’s because I am calm that I am vibrating in a really inviting way!)
Such a great idea!
Last night at the tree lighting people where pushing and shoving elderly people and parents with small children. Definitely not in the spirit of Christmas! I think New Yorkers need to focus more on what this holiday is really about. And this is the perfect way! And Broadway shows are asking for donations to Broadway Cares right now, so it’s the perfect time for that! My first gift in the 29 days was a donation after seeing Anything Goes.
Well, today, all I had to do was open up my facebook page to find an opportunity to give. I know Jay’s friend, Andy Paris, who posted this, and I gave immediately.
“Fellow actor Jay Snyder recently lost his wife Michal after giving labor to their twins on Nov. 25. It’s tragic and sad. You can help. The twins are still less than a week old. Follow this link.”
The Synder Twins | Supporting Jackson and Reverie
http://www.thesnydertwins.com
Thank you for the link. I know of this through a fellow actress and will be glad to offer my support.
Thanks Betsy, for always being a source of inspiration! My husband and I both had bad colds and didn’t get to visit family this year as planned for Thanksgiving, so I was disappointed. But then, seeing your “Giving Challenge” felt like a gift for me to think positively and I have been.
Everyday I am looking for new opportunities and it is amazing what the effect has been on my spirit and to those I am fortunate enough to be able to give to. So far, I have have held doors, donated to homeless, emailed and called friends to show support for their medical issues, relationship concerns, and one friend who has been going through a difficult and ongoing legal issue. I brought a friend, who works the outdoor holiday market, a Turkey sandwich on homemade bread and hot tea. I Invited a couple with kids, who don’t get out much, to be my guest at a Holiday Gala. I Volunteered to serve food and clean up at the upcoming holiday party at SAG.
These are all things I may have done anyway, and I wanted to do more in the spirit of the season. So, I made a commitment to encourage my husband, who has been concerned about his weight and his cholesterol level, and we both joined LiveStrong.com to adapt our diet/exercise plan and track our progress, I sent my sister an Accountability Partnership plan framework, based on what I learned during PATH training, so she could learn to work weekly on her essentials…since she is pursuing her Doctorate and is a bit overwhelmed. I offered free basic ‘how to use a computer’ lessons to an elderly man, who has no experience, is on a fixed income, and feels left out of the cyber world. And today, I presented the website I voluntarily created over the past several months for the SAG Conservatory. My reason for embarking on this rather daunting project, since I am not a web designer, was to provide fellow actors a streamlined, easy to understand site that would allow online access to all that the Conservatory offers and save them the trip of traveling to SAG just to sign up for a class, group or seminar. Hopefully, it will be an ongoing gift.
Looking forward to seeing what other inventive ways I can find to give. This feels so good; I may not want to stop : ) Thanks again, for your generous nature.
Margaret, Antoinette, Amy, Cynthia, and Diane: This is so great! Just reading your comments has proven incredibly inspiring and also given me some truly wonderful ideas! Can’t wait to hear more
I’m dog sitting for my friends this weekend since they’re in Miami visiting family. I decided to go one up and also clean their apartment, top to bottom. I know how cumbersome it is to come back from vacation to a messy apartment so I’m sure they will appreciate it
Thanks again for offering this challenge, Betsy. It feels good to pay it forward!
I think this project is wonderful – I recently quit my bank job to tutor part time and give myself time to write. In my spare time, it has been a great pleasure thinking of ways to give that make a concrete, measurable impact.
Some highlights of my recent gifts:
- As a tutor, I see many kids who are frustrated and anxious. Without being paid for it, I reached out to a student with test anxiety to cheer her up and let her know that I believe she is capable and skillful.
- I made dinner for friends of ours. They are currently undergoing contentious litigation for custody of the mother’s son, and I know how tired and stressed they are.
- I gave a great review to my hair stylist on Yelp. She’s given me the best haircut I have ever had, so I was sure to make that information public in the hopes that she will get more clients.
- I donated a little money (as much as I could) to the Beagle Freedom Project, which works to rehabilitate beagles raised and tested in labs so that they can be adopted and live happy lives. Most of them have never seen the sun or the outside before, so the organization is living proof that even those who are traumatized can heal and live normal lives.
These are all great, Bertha and Katherine! The Yelp review is a fantastic idea that I would never have thought of. So many small businesses rely on word of mouth — that’s a great way to spread your appreciation!
Thanks everyone for sharing your ideas! It makes me realize I can get way more creative. I made breakfast for my old roomie yesterday. Gift giving is a great way to connect with friends, acquaintances and strangers. It puts a smile on people’s faces, especially during this time of year when it can be a bit hectic and stressful.
I realize that my “time” means more to people than any gifts I buy them. So I am taking an elderly friend to the theater when I’m home for the holidays. He has always been incredibly generous to me and I know that having time together means the world to him. I have also been donating toys whenever I get a chance to toy drives. I am living alone on my show tour and I live alone at home, but this “challenge” is allowing me to reach out more than I ever do and it’s making me feel more connected and of service. It’s pretty wonderful.
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Hi Betsy! I love this challenge, it has really put me in a place of gratitude, I keep a gratitude journal each night now of what I am thankful for and I feel the positivity bringing change into my life!
Here are some of my recent gifts:
At my parent’s house the dishwasher is broken so after Thanksgiving dinner when my mom fell asleep I did all the dishes, she woke up and was so relieved to see they had all been done!
I made a meal for a homeless person in a brown paper bag and gave it to a homeless couple
My friend registered for NYCares and got a family who sent a list of gifts their children asked Santa for and I got a pillowpet lady bug for a young girl.
It feels great to do this from the little things like helping a stranger take her stroller up or down the subway stairs to the bigger things! Thanks for introducing this into my life!!
Yesterday, I had some stressful moments and I had to calmly stand up for myself in a firm way. I was angry at myself for being so reactive to other people’s rude behavior. But, after practicing “giving” so much and so often with this “challenge”, I gave some much needed compassion to myself. I am alone so much of my life due to my travel schedule with shows and being away from my family and friends, I sometimes forget to be kind and compassionate to myself. It was a great gift to myself.
Just checking in here. Love the check-in blog Betsy — it is easy to feel a bit of a slump — I love getting the posts via e-mail to be re-energized by reading others’ giving ideas and experiences. My week’s experiences are as follows:
Day Seven Dec. 1: made a donation to City Harvest
Day Eight Dec. 2: opened doors and found myself organically truly smiling at a lady on the train: she smiled back – it was awesome; I am cooking a week’s plus worth of food for my husband – I have so much to do but I know he feels cared for when I do and it will help him out financially to not have to eat out
Day Nine Dec. 3: made a donation to the Snyder Twins; gave my time and technological savvy to my husband by working with him on his business website; spent time with a friend going through a hard time
Day Ten Dec. 4: gave both kitties extra loving, petting time so they’d know they were very loved today
Day Eleven Dec. 5: had an unexpected opportunity to give a friend some time – I crossed paths with her and she needed to vent; posted a glowing review/comment on a teachers’ blog article on a site she was guest blogging on for the first time. It was a big deal for her and I was so happy to take time to support her! Called a friend back who called in need.
Day Twelve Dec. 6: I stopped by the grocery store on my home late tonight to get my husband the sugarless ice pops he likes that he mentioned two days ago. Reading the posts on the site want me to find more substantial ways to donate my time and resources. Have to think on that…
Day Thirteen Dec. 7: I have been consciously giving compliments where I can, to strangers or friends. Got a steak as a surprise for hubby tonight even though tired. He loves it! I also made donations to two Kickstarter projects of fellow artists: a film and an album. Felt great to support other artists’ dreams!
Day Fourteen Dec. 8: Got an extra ticket to an event at NYU and invited an older friend who’s out of work for some time. This one is sort of a self-gift too as I really will enjoy spending time with her! Gave my husband the gift of my trying to communicate and listen differently. He felt very heard, and that means a great deal to him. It was one of those things harder for me to give, as I enjoy communicating the way I most organically want to. But man, it made such a difference for him, and I did not miss “my way” as much as I thought I would.
Happy giving all! Thank you for your beautiful ideas and loving energies shared here.
This is the 1st I’m checking out everyone else’s giving. Thank you all for your wonderful generosity and energy! One thing I’ve noticed about the challenge is that I am excited about the ways my giving supports my values. This week, I gave worm composting workshops for the 3 pre-school classes at my kids’ school and set them all up with worms and bins so now the kids will give to the worms and the worms will give to the earth.
I am having an interesting time with this give-away: I’m working with an actor in a two-person show and he both drives me crazy and makes me laugh. He is egomaniacal, inconsiderate, mysoginistic, controlling etc etc, but he’s funny and I’m stuck with him for months and months away from home. But I keep trying to forgive him and step up because I DO have to work with him for a long time. Two nights ago, he asks if I would join him and his high school acting teacher who he hasn’t seen for years after our performance. I agree because it’s clear that his elderly teacher needs an audience to tell stories of how much she loves this guy. And there I was, giving of my time and energy to receive these stories. It was very sweet. I felt of service to this woman who had so many memories to share and she gave me an entirely new perspective on this annoying actor. (p.s. he still mistakenly thinks that he’s doing a solo show during our two-person play and takes credit for most of the big laughs we get which makes me giggle and irritates me beyond belief) Yesterday, I made pomegranate/chocolate candies to give away today at the matinee. I also treated the staff of the theater a couple of days ago with my favorite treats from a local coffee bar. Everyone has a better day when you think of them and stop and ask them how they’re doing and actually listen to what they have to say.
Happy Sunday giving!
My favorite morning ritual has officially become checking into the comments for the Giving Challenge! Seriously, folks, you’ve all been rock stars with this! One of the things I’m noticing is that the further we get into the challenge, the more it sounds like giving is becoming an organic action, which is exactly what I was hoping to find. I’m actually getting excited about reflecting on the entire experience when it’s done — I think it’ll eye-opening, to say the least.
Keep up the great work!
This past week, I did a lot for my kids’ school. I was conflicted about whether I should count these efforts since I signed on as PTA Secretary before this challenge but decided to include them because scheduled giving SHOULD count, and in fact is a great gift because of the ongoing commitment involved.
the text below is copied from my little thank you journal. yes, betsy, it is becoming organic. thank you.
12/12 – rushing down the street from thing 1 to thing 2, I saw a mailman struggling to keep an apartment building door open and reach into his mailbag cart to get the mail. I realized I did not need to be rushing as I was and when I passed him I asked if he needed a hand with the door. He asked if I lived there. I said no…but I was happy to hold the door open. And so I did. He seemed pleased. In return for my 45 seconds of assistance, I got the gift of slowing down…lucky me.
“…the gift of slowing down…”
I love this, Franny!
Yesterday, I sat and wrote many letters of sympathy. Two friends, who don’t know each other, lost their mothers this holiday season. Another friend just lost her husband. I wrote them all cards and asked them to call me for anything they may need. I ALSO wrote a tribute to my friend who had a birthday yesterday, extolling her virtues on her Facebook wall. It feels good to let people know that I can be a shoulder to lean on.
I don’t know if this will post properly but I thought folks might be interested in this month’s recommended reading from Dogooder.com:
December’s Book Club Recommendations – The Season of Giving
The DoGooder Book Club selections for December focus on the season of giving. These books help children and young adults understand the importance of giving your time, money and/or effort to others and the importance of service. Aligned with TheDoGooder philosophy: When you do good, good always comes back to you.
The Mitten Tree by Candace Christiansen
Sarah is an old woman who watches the neighborhood children play in the snow. They never notice her, but Sarah notices that one of the boys doesn’t have a pair of mittens. She quickly knits some for him and leaves them on a tree for him to find.
Giving 2.0 – by Laura Arrillaga-Andreessen
This book talks about giving your time (not just your money) and how to be smart about monetary donations. While the media mostly highlights celebrities or businesses donating thousands of dollars to their pet charity, many ordinary households are generous with their spare funds.
Giving: How Each of Us Can Change the World – by Bill Clinton
Written during wife Hilary Clinton’s presidential run, Clinton talks about how the role-reversal made him consider devoting his life to giving rather the more common political practice of getting (votes, support, funds).
TheDoGooder.com
120 Broadway
New York, NY 10271
Checking in with this fun thing I did the other day at an audition… the casting director came out to ask another actress if she had a different, more form-fitting shirt for the audition. Seeing that I was wearing a shirt that was more form-fitting, I offered the actress the top I was wearing since I could just wear my jacket for the few minutes she went back into her audition room. I obviously got my shirt back after she was done and it made me feel good to know that I was helping out a peer. She also thanked me a bunch of times, so that didn’t hurt either
The people in the room didn’t even mention that the top looked familiar!
I love that story about the audition shirt, Carly! Today, I was inspired by Franny’s slowing down post. Tonight as I sat in my car trying to get directions on my Iphone to get to a movie screening I was already late to, a woman pulled over to me and asked for directions. Instead of telling her that I was running late and couldn’t help, I searched my Iphone’s GPS and we got her the correct directions to get to a hospital she couldn’t find. I felt so much better and, you know what, the movie started 20 minutes late, so I was just fine.
Being cheerful to everyone I meet, we ALL deserve that!
As we get closer to the holiday, things obviously become more hectic. It’s great to hear that a lot of this giving challenge has become focused on taking a moment to slow down and shift our awareness from ourselves to those around us. It changes the mood and momentum of the entire day in the best possible way!
Wow!
I need to get documenting here!
Dec 2nd: I let a woman go ahead of me at an audition because she had two little kids. I bought groceries for my neighbor, who is housebound.
Dec 3rd. I helped a friend fix up her bike and took a friend to see a play!
Dec 4th: I met a friend and brought her lots of lovely teas and a cup because she needs more coziness this time of year.
Dec 5th: I brought a group of friends to another friend’s restaurant. I helped another friend prepare for his audition.
Dec 6th: I made a friend a pot of soup! (which is a big feat for me because I am a little scared of cooking), but she hasn’t been well and needed some TLC.
Dec 7th: I answered every email that has been dogging me with a lot of cheer. I took my friend to dinner and helped her with car, which broke down.
December 8th: I made a map of NYC for a woman who was going to visit. She was really grateful and excited.
December 9th: I taught a free yoga class and helped a friend, who is new to teaching with her class plan.
December 10th: I gathered some books and an article that I thought my friend would like, wrote a cute card and dropped it off at his house.
December 11th: I called my sister and then sent her some cartoons and a video to cheer her up. I made a beautiful dinner for my husband and even though it makes me sooo mad that he puts the Christmas decorations on hap-hazardly- I decided that the blessing of sharing the time of decorating the tree was so much more important than having things be “perfect” — I smiled and gave him a hug. Then he . . . cleaned the kitchen!! Whoooo-hooo! Giving love meant I got big love and care back! So sweet! I had that “me” moment and I kicked it to the curb!
December 12th: I listened to a friend, who is very overwhelmed- and I didn’t give any advice. I just tried to create a space where they felt heard and appreciated and safe. (Big step for this big sister!)
December 13th: I made sure to call my girlfriends that have sent me pictures of their kids for christmas to tell them how much I appreciate getting those cards! They are a lot of work- and they mean a lot to me!
December 14th: I bought a friend her tea. I made a friend lunch. I sent thank yous to some folks that have been working hard on bringing low cost yoga to our community- I really appreciate it!
Even reading over this makes me feel more calm- I feel like some days I forget that I have so many blessings and that I can be a blessing with whatever little resources I have on hand. It feels a lot like stone soup these days, but it makes me realize I am part of something much greater!
I don’t know if this will post properly but I thought folks might be interested in this month’s recommended reading from Dogooder.com:
December’s Book Club Recommendations – The Season of Giving
The DoGooder Book Club selections for December focus on the season of giving. These books help children and young adults understand the importance of giving your time, money and/or effort to others and the importance of service. Aligned with TheDoGooder philosophy: When you do good, good always comes back to you.
The Mitten Tree by Candace Christiansen
Sarah is an old woman who watches the neighborhood children play in the snow. They never notice her, but Sarah notices that one of the boys doesn’t have a pair of mittens. She quickly knits some for him and leaves them on a tree for him to find.
Giving 2.0 – by Laura Arrillaga-Andreessen
This book talks about giving your time (not just your money) and how to be smart about monetary donations. While the media mostly highlights celebrities or businesses donating thousands of dollars to their pet charity, many ordinary households are generous with their spare funds.
Giving: How Each of Us Can Change the World – by Bill Clinton
Written during wife Hilary Clinton’s presidential run, Clinton talks about how the role-reversal made him consider devoting his life to giving rather than the more common political practice of getting (votes, support, funds).
TheDoGooder.com
120 Broadway
New York, NY 10271
This is harder to remember to do daily than I thought. But, in doing this, I noticed all the ways I already give, in service in my various healing pursuits, to friends at the office who are being laid off (including myself), the gifts of solicited advice and humor and love. I would like to stretch this in ways that are less comfortable, like giving money, or time when it is not convenient. It also helps me notice the way my mind works, the ways I look to make myself comfortable by focusing on what is there for taking, rather than giving. So, this week, while I am doing my final week of work, I will try to give generously of myself and let go of feelings of entitlement. They are paying me after all to do my work! That said, I will get back to work.
Today I called the producer of my tour and told him how fabulous our current stage mgr. is – he promised to give her employment for the rest of the year as the tour hits other cities! Had no idea this was going to happen, but I’m thrilled! Taking the time to communicate how wonderful someone ELSE’s work is has now provided more work and a bigger credit on this young lady’s resume. This has kept me smiling ALL day!
The other night I waited over an hour with a friend at Grand Central Station for his train. It was late and I could have said goodbye and gone home, but it felt good to wait and keep him company. Somehow feeling good about that made up for the very little sleep I got that night!
Here is some inspiration as we enter the home stretch, gang!
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/anonymous-donors-pay-off-kmart-222535611.html
interesting to see how some of my giving overlaps!
several times i have given people coupons for items they are about to pay for. what a pleasure!
I will miss reading everyone’s givings! Moments of love set out into the world to ripple and grow. Powerful! Here’s some of mine from the last week:
Day Fifteen Dec. 9: I sent some suggestions and a long email to a fellow student who reached out to the class for help with monologue ideas for Grad school auditions.
Day Sixteen Dec. 10: I gave myself the gift of a break tonight from “doing” anything. Feeling frazzled and spent, going non-stop. I did open doors and smile: Exchanged an awesome moment with a 10 year old on the subway. Kids his age don’t usually smile back. He did.
Day Seventeen Dec. 11: Gave a subway performer $20. He was doing an amazing Michael Jackson performance. Was a real showman. I have a great deal of respect for artists who use the subway as a venue to perform. I wanted to support his talent. Gave smiles and hellos to strangers.
Day Eighteen Dec. 12: Sent a supportive e-mail to my class group. Took a friend to tea. Called a friend who I really miss and asked her if we could get together more regularly: told her how important she is to me and that I miss our connection.
Day Nineteen Dec. 13: Every day I click to give at the Breast cancer website. I click for beast cancer research and animal support: http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=2&link=ctg_bcs_home_from_ars_thankyou_sitenav. Takes 5 seconds.
Day Twenty Dec. 14: Sent card to my BFF in kansas — a just because card — her last Christmas with her final two kids in the nest, I know she’s got alot going on; finally sent a thank you to Mary, who sent me pics she took at Lisa’s graduation in June — it was so thoughtful of her; opened the door for a young woman on crutches
Day Twenty-One Dec. 15: helped two fellow actors work on monologues; reached out to a friend in need.
Day Twenty-two Dec. 16: gave a friend/mentor a gift and her cat also: in the card I thanked her for all the work she and I are doing together; gave support to a younger girl going through a hard time; left an encouraging message for another friend
Day Twenty-three Dec. 17: took husband to Bonnie & Clyde; spent time mentoring a woman; gave a compliment to a friend; helped a woman move a table
Happy continued giving all!
Today, thanks to another wonderful site (Daily Challenge) I wrote down a past regret on a piece of paper. I considered this regret and then forgave myself. I tore up the paper and can now move forward. I feel great about it. Sometimes you have to give yourself forgiveness.
Started out the challenge while home for Thanksgiving. Helped my mom decorate the entire house which was a wonderful bonding experience and she really appreciated since our house is nothing short of a Winter Wonderland and at 65 it can be a daunting task for my mom. Spent last weekend helping my 38 week pregnant sister with her 2 boys while she wasn’t feeling well and her husband was out of town. Once again I benefitted by helping others–getting wonderful time in with my amazing nephews. Along the way have found amazing ways to help. Simply clicking on the Pepsi Challenge website I can support the Courage Campain’s LGBT Youth Leadership project and the breats cancer website. & I just donated $25 to SPILL, a play being created about the Gulf spillage by the head writer of The Laramie Project. I encourage everyone to watch their short video and give what you can. They need just over $3,000 more in order ti make their project happen. I’m sure it would mean a lot to these victims to have their story told. http://www.usaprojects.org Find projects. Project SPILL.
I am a talker. So it comes as no surprise that one of my recent holiday jobs was as a demo person at Macy’s. This was the first time I’d ever done this kind of work, so I was a little nervous at first, but I relaxed soon enough. During the day,people came and went; some stopped and listened and were impressed with the product I described. At one point a woman stayed and chatted with me. She commented me on my presentation and my attitude. I confided to her that I was an actor. She was again impressed and then sheepishly said “I used to sing….and write songs, but it’s been a while.” The look on her face was one I recognized: the dream unfulfilled, and more importantly, the passion and spirit of a creative soul squashed and pushed into the back room.
I listened as she told me a little more about what she had hoped for and how it was something she wanted to get back to. I told her that it is never too late, that I know she felt more her real self when she was creating and that she needed to take small steps to get back to that feeling. Little baby steps. She agreed and, in Betsy Capes fashion, I gave her an assignment. Get a notebook and every day write three pages (a la Julia Cameron). Anything: poetry, rants, grief, just write.
After you’ve gotten that muscle working again, gather two or three others friends who are in the same creative zone and begin to share your work, not for criticism, but for support. I said I had started doing this again recently and I felt invigorated. She agreed to do this and thanked me for my advice and insights and then she said, “Thank you for this wonderful gift.”
I think I was aware of the gift I was giving while I spoke, but didn’t realize its fullness until she said those words. What a lovely feeling.
These are all so great! Everyone’s generosity and creativity are inspiring.
This week, I’m excited to give my boss at my day job a scarf that I crocheted for her a couple weeks ago. She has been extraordinarily, generously supportive of me, my career, and crazy schedule as it pertains to “the real world” ever since I started working with her. To have such positivity, encouragement and flexibility in this aspect of my life has been invaluable to my attitudes and successes within my career. I focused on my feelings of gratefulness and appreciation while I was working on it — I hope she likes it!
Yes, Margaret Curry, I love that you have a day of extra kitty petting time! That was one of mine too. It felt good to remind my kitty (and myself) that despite my varied, busy schedule, he is still very much loved.
And I absolutely agree with you, Lauren Hunter, that a giving frame of mind helps to accentuate those instances in which I am on the receiving end of others’ generosity. I hope to hold onto that awareness!
donated to NYFA
I am currently working regionally in a production of “A Christmas Carol”. In turn, the 29-Day Challenge has been really helpful in renewing my holiday giving spirit (and getting me through the days of diminishing sunshine!)
This project brought about gestures that have not only brightened the day of the recipients, but mine as well– renewing my energy and passion. However, the greatest gift I have been able to give was to a castmate.
His car had broken down and I have been giving him a ride back to his hotel, where he is staying for the duration of the show. Sure, it goes down once on the list, BUT I have stuck with it in following days because it gives as much to me as it does him.
I feel it was a great opportunity for me to give back, just as a fellow actor did for me during my freshman year of college. Once again, I was doing ” A Christmas Carol”, but in a different and new city where I didn’t know many people. I would take the bus to and from performances. However, if the bus was early and the show ran late, I found myself waiting 30- 40 minutes in a less than desirable part of town.
I will always be grateful to the actor who played Marley, as he gave me a lift home on many occasions. I am glad I could continue the tradition this year, especially during one of the coldest months of the year.
So, of all of the gifts I have given so far, this one has stayed with me most. It is a reminder of great importance: we must stick together as artists, so we can continue to inspire each other and create new and exciting things.
I am so glad I was able to realize this through the challenge. Thanks, Betsy.
Wow! I’m almost overwhelmed by the amount of giving going on here
I have to say, you’ve all been rock stars with this — you’ve made the giving challenge your own and done amazing things with it. I couldn’t be more proud of the work we’re all doing and can’t wait to recap my own experience in a future blog post.
Great job everyone!!
Dec. 4th
Bellydanced for a private Xmas party. It was a company that uses actors for corporate training and they had not had alot of gigs and had not had an Xmas party in 4 years due to budgetting. Finally someone suggested a pot luck and so we had the party. At the last one I had performed a belly dance (everyone is asked if they can perform something – it can be anything) and I remembered how much everyone loved it so even though I was out of practice and pressed for time, I decided that it would be something everyone would really enjoy and I was right. Everyone commented and raved about how much they loved it and I felt it was worth the sacrifice of time and energy to be able to give something everyone so thoroughly enjoyed. Also gave the hostess a cute little golden pig that I had been meaning to give her for a while. Little pigs had special meaning to all of us who worked for them.
I think giving has become more organic and it is interesting for me to see how often it presents itself, now that I am looking. Since last check in, there have been many moments that people simply needed something; sometimes a small kindly gesture, other times a person to share ideas with or vent to and other times something that required a little bit more of me and my time but fortunately, because of this challenge, I noticed and was able to provided what was needed. My favorite example that occurred Dec 2nd was that a woman who was walking on the street several feet ahead of me was also searching through her purse for something. I was aware to all around me, so when I saw a flurry of light in the relative darkness of the evening, I paid close attention. As I reached that spot, I noticed her Metrocard on the ground. I picked it up, and ran up to her to return it. Since she hadn’t realized she even dropped it, there was an awkward moment with her trying to comprehend what I was telling her, but a second later she was thanking me and said, “OMG that is my monthly, I just bought it yesterday! Knowing I had done something that I may not even have been able to do without active awareness of others, made me smile the rest of my walk home that night. Thanks again for this gift of taking the focus off of me and my world and extending it to those around me.
I loved reading the post about our fears that are coming up with this challenge, and the solution of letting go of the very thing that we’re terrified to lose. I have been doing that every day, and like Thom has said, in all these instances, I am the one getting tremendous gifts.
This challenge has made me see more clearly that money truly is energy and energy has to move. That there is truly no need to rush.
I always feel better when I’m of service in some way. And these past few weeks, I have felt more fulfilled and happier than I have in a long while. And it’s been a matter of slowing down, smiling, holding the door for people, showing kindness at every corner and giving money away. It’s remarkable how abundant and inspired I feel. I’m deeply grateful for the group of people in this challenge and for CAPES Coaching for providing such an amazing gift.
Sooo true Antoinette! I identify with so many of the comments about feeling happier and more peaceful. I cannot remember a holiday crush when I felt this level of serenity inside. I was sort of humbled beyond belief yesterday when I was approaching the door of the bank. An elderly woman with a walker/cane was standing in front of the door, clearly awaiting someone to help her get in. There were several people just to the side of the door smoking and talking and no one passing by or that group who were literally inches from her noticed. I watched from across the block until I go to the door — alot of people passed her by. I was so happy to help her in, and I wondered how many times she waits for help like that. I know that this Challenge has me on a different vibration so that I am open to being there in moments like that, and for that I am incredibly grateful.
This has been a very interesting challenge. Thank you for bringing it to my attention! I have been working on giving friendly hellos and compliments to my neighbors. I have even given my partner several much needed nights off doing dishes. I would not say that these things were absent in my life before but the intentional mediation that I am offering this as a gift has added a new level of connection and presence to my actions.
This has been a wonderful challenge. It is something will consciously continue to do once the 30 days are up.
Earlier in the month, my friend had surgery and I went to her house to sit by her bed and brought her flowers with a balloon. As soon as she was well enough to be up and out of the house, we got dressed up and went out to dinner to celebrate her recovery.
This is my first check in although I’ve been writing down my daily gifts since 11/25. Today I helped a woman at the post office write out the addresses on her final few holiday cards. She asked me the time and seemed to be having a little trouble. She said “I’ve done so many. Where did I get all these friends?” I thought that was amazing and I asked her if I could help with the few she had left.
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This challenge was awesome! Here’s the story of a gift that I had a lot of fun giving:
Toys for Tots:
When I was told by the drop-off coordinator at Whole Foods that they had plenty of action figures, and were in need of more “girl toys,” I didn’t even protest “Um, what makes you think that little girls wouldn’t like action figures? Do you realize that gender-based oppression begins in the cradle, and that behaviors learned in early childhood lead to the oppression of women in their adulthood?” I was just secretly delighted by the opportunity to shop for handcrafted princess tiaras and copies of favorite fairy tale picture books from my own childhood.
I was in for a grown-up surprise when I visited a couple artisanal toy shops and realized that handpainted fairy wings ain’t cheap. Nor are copies of those beloved picture books. Nor, even, are beanie babies from Duane Reade. I finally got a couple friendship bracelet-making kits on sale, dropped then off, and left feeling, well, cheap. The next day, it occurred to me: if you can only afford to be cheap, be cheap all the way. So I went to my favorite store (Forever 21) and picked out a dozen sparkly nail polish sets and lip gloss kits and pink plastic compacts with rhinestone roses. I was careful not to get any “you’re not good enough” makeup, like bronzer or concealment, just fun, cheap makeup that only a little girl would love to wear. I dropped the booty off at the Whole Foods, and left feeling like royalty. And I hope that those anonymous little girls who wind up with the sparkly pink nail polish will feel the same way….while they dream up battle strategies for their GI Joes.
My favorite gift I gave during the challenge was a small box of candy to a castmate. The gift itself wasn’t particularly amazing or clever, but the giftee was so excited by the unexpected present that it really made my day!
One of my favorite days of giving involved my friend’s homemade ginger cookies. She gave me about a dozen at the end of a dinner party and as much as I loved them, I had eaten enough of them. So I took the cookies with me when I set out to run errands one day, thinking I would offer them to the clerks, shoppers, etc. Well, I started offering them to strangers on the street just outside my apartment building and the bag was empty by the time I reached the end of my block. It was wonderful to have exchanges like that and see huge smiles on people’s faces. Thank you, Betsy!
I have to confess that the last day of the challenge was the most difficult. I arrived at my parents’ house yesterday to celebrate the holidays and I showed up filled with a feeling of peace and this wonderful sense of abundance from giving so regularly this past month, when the reality of my dear, demanding mother threw me off balance. I tried and failed all day in trying to give give give to her. I made excursions out of the house and was chatty and polite and giving to a multitude of shop clerks and cashiers and even visited ANOTHER mother and daughter to share my time and loving feelings with them and to catch up with their lives. It was so easy to give to everyone other than my mom. And then finally, after my mother went to bed, inspired by notes I’ve read on this blog, I washed all of the dishes in her sink, and I folded all of the laundry in her dryer. I finally felt at peace that I was able to give her something. I love the irony that this challenge has been so wonderfully easy until the very last day when I was faced with the relationship that continues to be a challenge in my life. I woke up today feeling much easier about it all, and having a sense of humor about the aforementioned relationship.
I cannot articulate how deeply grateful I am for the “29-days of giving challenge” for providing me with one of the best months of 2011. Thank you and HAPPIEST of HOLIDAYS to you all! May we all have an Abundant and Giving 2012! Blessings, Antoinette
I also love the idea of yelping out to my stylist! She’s the best! I’ll make it #30 on my 29 days of giving. …Some of my favorite “gives” were giving a pair of my old eyeglasses to New Eyes for the Needy (http://neweyesfortheneedy.org/), giving old dumbbells away on freecycle, and backing my friend’s project on kickstarter.
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